Husband and Wife exchanging ‘MANGALSUTRA’ at their wedding and breaking stereotypes

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Published by Chinmay Kulkarni on 06 May 2021

An Indian wife is always supposed to be wearing a Mangalsutra, but when a husband decides to do so raised questions by the conservatives of the society. Shardul Kadam said he would wear a ‘mangalsutra’ at his wedding, which made many eyebrows raised, the ‘mangalsutra’ is a sacred thread that is traditionally tied by the groom around the bride’s neck during rituals performed at the wedding. Shardul while talking to Humans of Bombay said, “After the pheras when Tanuja and I tied the mangalsutra around each other’s neck, I was so happy,” he explained why he choose to do so and how he got a response to his wedding day photos on social media. Shardul believes in gender equality, once he quoted in his post, “अलिङ्गस्तु आत्मा। : Meaning: Soul has no gender.”

Shardul and Tanuja met in college, but they fell in love after four years of graduation,  Shardul said, “We reconnected in the most unexpected way. She’d shared a Himesh Reshammiya song on Instagram and captioned it as ‘torture’-I replied saying ‘maha torture’…that’s how we started talking.” When the couple met for a tea while talking Shardul called himself a ‘Hardcore Feminist’, Tanuja was shocked, “She looked at me as if she hadn’t expected me to say that!”  said Shardul. The couple dated for a year before they got married after the first wave of pandemic finally told their parents about them. Before marriage when Shardul decided to wear ‘mangalsutra’,  they even doubted his decisions. Shardul was firm and told his parents that wearing a ‘mangalsutra’ is ‘equality’ for him.

Tanuja asked Shardul about his decision of wearing the ‘mangalsutra’ even after the wedding to which Shardul was affirmative. Shardul said they received a lot of trolling on their social media, while some of them even asked Shardul to wear a Saree along with ‘mangalsutra”, he said,’ People started commenting- ‘Now wear a saree also’, ‘Do you bleed once a month?’ Even liberals started trolling me, ‘This is not the way to support gender equality,’ they said.” The couple believes that they know each other very well and do not need peoples opinions about them, “Because Tanuja and I can define our relationship better than anyone else; we support each other’s work, believe in each other’s dreams, and are in this journey together. So, who cares what the world thinks?” he said.



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